There's a rant brewing and I'll tell you why... I've got an 8 year old boy who's just started in my classes. His behaviour history over the last few years is totally appalling. It's dreadful that he's been allowed to behave this way for so long, but I'm not really shocked. I deal with this sort of thing every day in my job of taking on kids who are at the point of being permanently kicked out of school and successfully managing their behaviour.
Well, this particular child's behaviour is exceptionally bad...
But that's not what the rant's about. He's fine - well, not just yet, but he will be...
I'm actually ranting about the adults in this boy's school and so many other schools I have dealings with! Those adults who've allowed this little boy to deteriorate into the awful state he's now in. They're dire and dreadful!
So, what have some of the adults from his school done? They've written to a higher authority than the head teacher, complaining about this little kid. I can just imagine the tone of the letters, 'He does this, he does that, we can't do this, we've tried that, whinge whinge, whine, whine, moan, moan, etc, etc,'
And what result do they want? I haven't a clue but I guess they'd rather he disappeared from their school and got offloaded somewhere else!
Come on Liz, surely that's reasonable and they'd want him to go to another school? No, it is not reasonable - in fact it's totally unreasonable... Why? Well, as I've said so many times, children's behaviour is an adult problem. Ok, kids are behaving badly, but why? Because the adults are getting it so wrong, that's why...
Adults have to accept that they are responsible for children's behaviour - and those in this boy's school have allowed him to deteriorate to this point. Whingeing and whining about a situation that adults in general have allowed to get worse and worse, isn't going to have any beneficial impact, is it?
What's the reason for the bad behaviour? Well, many children know that they can behave appallingly and not a great deal happens as a result. When adults' only recourse is to send whining letters of condemnation to a higher authority is doesn't say much for adults taking responsibility...
The only way children's behaviour will change is if adults evaluate their own behaviour and make some changes to themselves. They won't see any alterations in children's behaviour unless this happens.
Adults, you need to get a grip! Admit it - if you don't know how to change then you've got things to learn. It's really not difficult to learn to do what adults should be doing - managing children's behaviour!
You'll be pleased to know that I've finished my rant!! - 31963
Well, this particular child's behaviour is exceptionally bad...
But that's not what the rant's about. He's fine - well, not just yet, but he will be...
I'm actually ranting about the adults in this boy's school and so many other schools I have dealings with! Those adults who've allowed this little boy to deteriorate into the awful state he's now in. They're dire and dreadful!
So, what have some of the adults from his school done? They've written to a higher authority than the head teacher, complaining about this little kid. I can just imagine the tone of the letters, 'He does this, he does that, we can't do this, we've tried that, whinge whinge, whine, whine, moan, moan, etc, etc,'
And what result do they want? I haven't a clue but I guess they'd rather he disappeared from their school and got offloaded somewhere else!
Come on Liz, surely that's reasonable and they'd want him to go to another school? No, it is not reasonable - in fact it's totally unreasonable... Why? Well, as I've said so many times, children's behaviour is an adult problem. Ok, kids are behaving badly, but why? Because the adults are getting it so wrong, that's why...
Adults have to accept that they are responsible for children's behaviour - and those in this boy's school have allowed him to deteriorate to this point. Whingeing and whining about a situation that adults in general have allowed to get worse and worse, isn't going to have any beneficial impact, is it?
What's the reason for the bad behaviour? Well, many children know that they can behave appallingly and not a great deal happens as a result. When adults' only recourse is to send whining letters of condemnation to a higher authority is doesn't say much for adults taking responsibility...
The only way children's behaviour will change is if adults evaluate their own behaviour and make some changes to themselves. They won't see any alterations in children's behaviour unless this happens.
Adults, you need to get a grip! Admit it - if you don't know how to change then you've got things to learn. It's really not difficult to learn to do what adults should be doing - managing children's behaviour!
You'll be pleased to know that I've finished my rant!! - 31963
About the Author:
Liz Marsden is a highly experienced and successful child behaviour management expert. She uses her expertise to train teachers, students and parents to prevent children's extreme behaviour. Visit Liz's website where you can download her highly recommended book and learn about her behaviour management strategies that are proved to work time after time.
